A Note From the Editor: All good things come to an end, and I am sad to report that last week's 'Dear Margaret' column was the last in the series. The Lansing Star extends great thanks to Margaret Snow ...
Dear Margaret: Some people have an easy time being around someone who has recently lost a close friend or relative in death. These people seem to know the right thing to say. It makes me uncomfortable, ...
Dear Margaret: I'm dating a guy who is head over heels about me. He's very attentive, showers me with praise and thinks to bring me small gifts every so often. The problem is, he seems to be overly attentive. ...
Dear Margaret: I work for a small office that is incredibly toxic. Employees gossip about each other, a few are bullies, and the boss picks favorites. Going to her, therefore, is out of the question. I ...
Dear Margaret: I recently helped a friend to promote his business by advertising and finding an appropriate venue for a string of ten events he wants to hold. The first event was successful, and he received ...
Dear Margaret: I have a friend who is always asking me for favors. I never mind helping out a friend, but I’m a bit tired of being her go-to person. She would probably help me out if I were in a bind, ...
Dear Margaret: I have recently had two of my best (and only) friends leave state and one promises to be back for good (we'll call her Stacy). The other (we'll call her Amy) doesn't want to come back, but ...
Dear Margaret: I recently visited my son, daughter-in-law and new granddaughter. I don't feel that I but in and offer advice where it isn't needed, but this is their first baby and I know when they struggle ...
Dear Margaret: A friend of mine recently turned to religion and will no longer associate with me. She preached to me and invited me to attend her church for several weeks. After my kindly refusals, she ...
Dear Margaret: I'm recently engaged to a woman with two small, pre-school children. I feel close to these boys and think they feel the same about me. The problem comes when it's time to discipline them. ...
Dear Margaret: My husband died last year, and I'm starting to get back on my feet. I've found new activities that are enjoyable and keep mentally alert and physically challenged. My problem is that friends ...
Dear Margaret: My sister and I have always had a difficult relationship. There have been so many times when she's pushed my buttons, and I've vowed to never speak to her again. I always let things slide ...
Dear Margaret: I have a friend who has put up a few crowd funding pages and advertises them on social media. I find it disconcerting that she puts these pages up to ask for money for various charities ...
Dear Margaret: My teenage daughter recently came home from her friend's grandmother's house and asked, "Who is Melinda?" I almost fell to the floor in shock. We'd never told her that her father had been married ...
... you feel and their absence is felt. I'm sure you're not alone in how your feel, and hope that you are able to ride this new wave and enjoy your holidays. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret ...
... 'helicopter employers.' Some employees won't fly, but those that do will be the greatest assets to your company. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life Coach in Ithaca, NY. ...
In the current divisive political climate, I am a bit torn about social media postings. I want to have my voice heard and my opinions considered. I feel that by being silent I'm complicit in activities ...
In a gathering I recently attended, the speaker insisted that the opposite of love is not hate, but fear. A lot of heads shook yes at this statement. I'm feeling like there are people I dislike, and do ...
On occasion, we get together with another couple in which the husband dominates the conversation and interrupts when someone else has the floor. We really do like them and don't want to shut them out ...
I grew up in a home where there was often open hostility and violence. I have to say, it's left me with a good deal of emotional trauma that I'm trying to navigate as an adult. I have deep feelings of ...
... to imply…?" In my experience, whether or not the comments are intended to belittle you, asking the question causes the individual to think about how they come across. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. ...
With so much in the news and social media lately about sexual assault, it is bringing up my own story that I've held in for 37 years. So many brave men and women are getting their stories out, and are ...
... not feel like it's your nature. You are a successful woman and adding this ability will help you grow, not only as a businesswoman, but as a complete individual. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. ...
We live in a coastal town which appeals to family and friends as a good travel destination. Since our home is small, most people stay at a nearby hotel to avail themselves of closer proximity to the water. ...
I've been assigned a project with a coworker, and we are equals as far as the organization chart goes. My modus operandi is to use project management tools and stick with a plan to its completion. Unfortunately, ...
My life feels topsy-turvy lately. My marriage has always been strong, predictable and stable. However, lately my husband seems to be going through a midlife crisis. He's unpredictable, restless, trying ...
... And it isn't personal. My best to you. I understand your desire to have harmony between the two families, and how difficult this feels. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life ...
I work for a small company that has become a family run business. The owner's wife, her sister, and sister's husband are all employed by the company. It feels very much like a dysfunctional family here. ...
... it is YOU want in a relationship, you will know what to do. And, the solution probably won't be easy, but it will be right. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life Coach in Ithaca, ...
... provide healthy perks or raises that I'm sure would be appreciated. We all have our roles to fulfill, and his role appears to be promoting the success of others. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. ...
... uncomfortable place. Increased sensitivity to how your comments are received will guide you through this process. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life Coach in Ithaca, NY. ...
While I appreciate my girlfriend's desire to maintain a healthy lifestyle, and generally agree to go along with her next new thing, I'm growing a bit weary of her ever changing idea of what healthy even ...
... which they would value receiving, whatever that means to them. In the end, they are your assets to distribute, and your own sense of fairness is what matters. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. ...
I've just moved into a new home, love everything about it and enjoy the neighborhood. All except for one thing. We have a busybody neighbor. My husband was away on business last week and I had a male ...
I have a coworker that seems to land choice clients that turn out to be lucrative and bring accolades from our superiors. What is irksome is that this person doesn't do any of the heavy lifting in our ...
... in his now more fragile state. In a world that often lacks compassion, thank you for being a lighthouse of tenderness and love. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life Coach ...
Two weeks ago I had an unpleasant confrontation with the mother of one of my son's friends. We both said things that, at least, I regret. Mind you, what I said was the truth, I just regret expressing ...
I've been divorced for several years. My son wasn't quite two when we split up, so he really has no memory of the mental and physical abuse I suffered during my marriage to his biological father. And ...
Throughout my life I've experienced the feeling of being controlled by other people, including siblings, my parents, my partner, friends and employers. I feel like I'm putting an energy out there that ...
I'm feeling like I know what it is to be the victim of an energy vampire. I have a new-ish friend with whom I have much in common. We enjoy many of the same activities, and at first I really enjoyed her ...
... and certainly avoid discussing sensitive information with him. I'm sorry he broke the trust you had for him and the pain it caused. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life Coach ...
... put you outside your comfort zone? Starting with baby steps is perfectly acceptable. Much happiness to you as you explore your limits! Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret Snow is a Life ...
... That is not abandonment. It's making a decision to come closer to a win/win for you both. Be kind and gentle to yourself, as you are with your mother. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret ...
... is, don't go overboard to compensate. For now, treat both daughters equally in terms of kindness. I'm sorry her lack of maturity is causing you discomfort. Click Here to write to Dear Margaret. Margaret ...
I've been struggling with the concept of forgiveness for a very long time. I get all kinds of advice from all kinds of people, none of which is very helpful. Some say you can forgive but not forget, but ...
My best friend of 30 plus years and I had a falling out a while ago, and I am devastated. We both said things that we didn't mean, or at least didn't mean to say. She was my confidant and trusted advisor. ...
I've been divorced for several years now, and have two adult children. I'm still in the work world, although I could technically retire comfortably at any time now. I feel like my life is and has been ...
My 15 year-old daughter seems to buck authority at every turn. She resents not only my authority, but that of teachers and all others who represent leadership over her. When the time comes for her to ...
I have a sister-in-law that is continually one-upping me in what seems like every interaction. She does this in conversation between the two of us as well as in groups. I’m getting so I can’t stand to ...
Over the past year I've unfriended several people on Facebook for a variety of reasons. Some are too political, or at least hold views in the extreme opposite of mine. Others are too 'Christmas letter-y'. ...
