- By Margaret Snow
- Around Town
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Dear Margaret: On a hunch, I looked through my fiancée's texts because I had suspicions that some of his evening walks were not so innocent. It appears I am right. I saw a text to a neighbor, and I now know he has cheated on me at least once. I don't know whether to bring this up to him or let it go and hope that this was an anomaly. Perhaps I should continue to monitor his texts before I make it known to him that I'm aware of his disloyalty to me. What advice can you give me?His Cheating Heart
Dear His Cheating Heart: This is a poor start to a potential marriage. He has cheated on you and you have invaded his privacy to garner information about his whereabouts. This is worthy of a discussion with him. You have to tell him honestly that you went through his phone looking for evidence to prove your suspicions, and he needs to let you know whether or not he can be on board with a monogamous relationship. If that isn't part of his value system, let him go. Another option if you both feel the relationship is worth saving is to work towards reestablishing a foundation of trust.
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