- By Margaret Snow
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Dear Margaret: I have recently had two of my best (and only) friends leave state and one promises to be back for good (we'll call her Stacy). The other (we'll call her Amy) doesn't want to come back, but would like me to come see her and possibly in the future, move to her state. I'm very torn right now, as I plan on a trip to see Amy in March, but not to see Stacy because she lives too far west. Am I being a bad friend by not going to see Stacy? I've always thought that Amy and Stacy were better friends to me than I was to them. I really love both and don't want to lose either of them. Help!Carol in Groton
Dear Carol in Groton: Your question is, are you a bad friend for doing what you want to do. The quick answer is no. It seems the problem is the fact that you fear losing a friend for doing what it is that you feel you want to do. You're a step ahead of many people who don't know what they want. Unless there is more to the story, you love both women and they are both good friends to you. That being the case, expressing your love to them and then giving them your current travel arrangements would seem sufficient. Leaving the option open for travel further west at some point in the future seems reasonable.
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