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Dear IMO,

All of my children are computer savvy. I guess they spend about 2-3 hours a day on line. I monitor their activity walking by the computer from time to time, but I'm worried about their safety. Should I be worried? I have heard about the threats that exist, but what can I do to insure their safety and allow them to enjoy their computer time?

Thanks,

Shelia

Dear Shelia,

 

The Internet allows kids the opportunity to explore a wealth of information by which they can research topics, get homework help, expand their social network, and freely express their opinions. However, there are some risks involved with anyone using the Internet, especially young children and teens.

 

Although you often hear horror stories about exploitation or identity theft, keep in mind these are usually the extreme and are not the norm. The negative experiences associated with Internet use should not be the only criteria on which you base your children's and your own risk assessment.

 

Millions use the Internet safely and without worry. Nonetheless, you have to be aware of where your children go on the Internet and what they offer in public forums, chat rooms, and on their own "my space" accounts.

 

First, you ought to establish some basic rules about Internet use no matter where they are. You will expect a certain level of honesty and trust along with a verbal agreement that they will honor the rules. IMO's son has developed the wonderful habit of asking for permission to go online, and this too acts as a safeguard.

 

In addition, the computer should be in a public place in your home so you can do a "walk-by" and politely ask, "What ya doing, honey?" You might want to sit down with them and watch as they "surf" the web for information. Your presence will be an added layer of protection, and you might learn a few tricks or shortcuts during your brief visit.

 

You will also need to discuss the importance of privacy with your children. Explain to them that they should never share personal information about themselves or others on line. They should never, ever arrange to meet face-to-face with a person they have met on line. All parents should have a filtering device in place to limit access to inappropriate sites, and remind them they will always need permission to purchase anything on line. Likewise, they should never speak rudely or spread rumors about anyone while on-line.

 

It may seem an overwhelming task, but a few precautionary measures will allow your children to use the Internet safely and give you peace of mind.

 

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